You know, I’m always talking about dating and how messy it is, and love — and how messy that is too. But really, there’s also a silver lining. And that, of course, is marriage. Someone I really look up to — who’s done really well at this marriage thing — is Jacaranda FM colleague, Gerda de Sousa. I want to figure out: how does she do it? It’s been many years, they’re still very much in love, they’ve got a kid… I just want to know how. Because sometimes, you’ve got to learn from the people who are in the trenches. (Not that marriage is a trench. Anyway, moving on.) In this episode: 00:00 Welcome to Love, Dating and Chaos 00:22 Introducing Gerda de Sousa 00:47 The tweezer trick 01:24 Marriage tricks and solutions 02:31 Tony's hidden vacuum cleaner 03:45 Marriage realities and reflections 03:55 Philicity's marriage story 05:10 The amicable divorce 05:59 The challenges of marriage and parenthood 07:44 The importance of familiarity in marriage 10:59 The beginning of Philicity and Tony's relationship 14:58 The wedding and family dynamics 20:09 Philicity's reflections on motherhood 21:40 The impact of parenthood on relationships 23:33 Philicity's personal growth and dating advice 25:52 Navigating love and loneliness 27:42 Challenges of modern parenting 29:49 Marriage: the good, the bad, and the funny 36:55 Finding the right partner 45:10 The importance of financial discussions 46:33 Final thoughts and gratitude